Therapy for boundaries
How do I know if I need therapy for boundaries?
Do you often find yourself saying yes to people and obligations when you want to say no? Sometimes it feels “rude” or “mean” to put your needs above the needs of others, especially if you do have the time to help. We live in a societal structure where personal needs and limitations are often not respected. Think about the last time you took a personal or sick day. Did you feel guilty about it? Perhaps you have many family obligations, with aging parents, younger siblings, and/or kids of your own. Maybe you have multiple people in your life who are really good at making their situations feel like your priority, when you know deep down they made the choices to get them to that space. Sometimes you dream about what it would be like to say how you really feel about things without the guilt that accompanies it.
I’m not implying you should never help others, but maybe, just maybe, you could stand to put your own needs a little higher on the list. If any of the above resonates with you, therapy for healthier boundaries might be exactly what you need. Whether you would describe your need for boundaries being only in one area (such as work or family) or if you generally struggle with people pleasing tendencies, there’s good news: I get it. You are not the only one dealing with boundary issues, and there are actionable things you can do to work on respecting your needs more and spending less time with “I should have X”.
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How can therapy help me?
My therapy skills are curated to help you:
- Understand what “setting boundaries” really means. Explore the ins and outs of setting and maintaining personal boundaries.
- Examine your goals. Define what your personal goals are regarding boundaries so we can best bring them to reality.
- Build resilience. Cultivate a strong foundation to better address conflict that might arise from setting boundaries.
- Develop coping strategies. Create a personalized set of strategies to help you address feelings of guilt or frustration when others choose to challenge or ignore your boundaries.
- Enhance and adjust relationships. Explore how setting boundaries impacts the way you interact with others, and develop skills for healthy connections
- Improve self-esteem. Work towards embracing confidence in knowing your limits and enhancing your self-care time.
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Common concerns addressed in therapy for boundaries
- Feeling guilty
- Augmented stress and anxiety
- People pleasing tendencies
- Feeling frustrated when you can’t “do it all”
- Worrying about how others will perceive you
- Struggling to discern the difference between someone else’s feelings and your own
- Financial stress
- Changes in health (i.e. blood pressure, panic attacks)
- Changes in sleep behaviors
Benefits in therapy for boundaries
Living under constant worry about staying in everyone’s good graces (except your own) can really drain you in ways you wouldn’t expect. You are a person, just like everyone else, and you deserve to have your needs met. It’s ok to need things. It’s ok to take up space. Let’s work together on combatting the belief structures that tell you otherwise. By better understanding what setting boundaries really means and working on establishing your personal boundaries, you can address the bigger picture and find ways to build in self-care and let go of some of the things holding you back from being truly happy.